It may seem counterproductive and right out wrong if you forgive someone -all in good faith- but even after this kind gesture of yours, the other person doesn't forgive you. Well, let me say this right now: It's OK.
I remember talking to one of my daughters about this very subject. I told her that we forgive not because we want to be forgiven but because we want to be free. Free from what? Free from the burden of carrying a grudge, fear, rage or hate towards that person; because in time all these feelings build up and create this invisible cage, where we are not only prisoners in it but unable to get ourselves out.
There are so many bible verses that talk about this subject and one may think it's an overrated subject. Either your forgive and move on or forgive and still hold the other person accountable for not asking for forgiveness. In this case FORGIVENESS IS NOT A TWO WAY STREET. It's a personal choice.
Take this bible verse for example:
And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.
Pay attention to the "if you don't forgive, your Father in heaven won't forgive your sins". We forgive in a selfish kind of way, in that if we don't, we won't be forgiven by our God, Creator and Father. That's heavy. He is perfect in every way, yet he chooses to forgive us out of love. He looks into our hearts and sees beyond what our natural eyes can't see. But, if our hearts are not pleasing to God -maybe it's full of anger and hate- well, then there's no reason for forgiveness if we - imperfect creatures by nature - ourselves don't forgive. What give us the right to pick and choose who and when to forgive? Are we above anyone? Are our garments white and clean?
For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; Being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus.
The love of Christ is greater than any sin, He has chosen us to be with him, freely and lovingly, and the only thing required is that we do the same unto others: FORGIVE. Your heart and your spirit will be free from bondage and you will be able to experience the fullness of the grace of God.
Forgiveness is a choice. Choose to forgive because you want to be forgiven by God and because in doing so you are freeing yourself -with God's grace through Jesus- from the bondage of hate and bitterness. You will be able to love and bear one another because you have experienced the unending love of Christ. Once you understand why Christ Jesus sacrificed himself for us in that cross then you'll understand what love really means and will be able to love, even those who don't love you back.
But He was wounded for our transgressions,
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